Moving Forward

Embarrassment and discouragement are territories I have rarely ventured. I can count on one hand the times I have felt each emotion. Each incident vivid and with a clear cause. Now I feel both and without a distinct culprit.

I am embarrassed that our nation’s highest office is not taken more seriously.

I am embarrassed that voters felt the need to select between the lesser of two evils without whole-heartedly supporting their choice.

I am embarrassed not by who was elected but by the people who elected him because they felt that their singular interests outweighed the pain, disrespect, and alienation of their neighbors.

I am embarrassed that I am not entirely sure the outcome is unwarranted or unexpected.

I am discouraged that teachers will go to schools today and tell their students that being respectful of and civil with their classmates is not their highest responsibility as a member of the classroom.

I am discouraged that I will go to work and sit next to the silent voters who feel ashamed to admit who they selected.

I am discouraged that our nation is so clearly divided.

I am discouraged that this is not a time of celebration but a time of disappointment.

I know very little about politics but I do know how to be optimistic. I am glad this election is over. I am proud that people had their voices heard. I am relieved that negative propaganda will not be as prevalent. I am thankful that the nation received a wake up call. I am encouraged that feelings are fleeting. I am hopeful that the next few years will be about positive actions directed towards and achieved by a whole instead of negative words directed towards and spoken by factions. Time to move forward.

All Smiles

I’m not sure if the Bachelorette is my subconscious travel agent or if my love of elephants has finally gotten the best of me, but I just booked a trip to Thailand! Okay. Dylan did most of the work, but I faithfully sat by his side as he researched. Plus, I clicked the final button that secured our trip. Teamwork! So many exclamations! I can’t contain my excitement!

With my glee comes a couple of nerves. What will we see? What can I wear? Am I going to get sick? Can I handle the flight? In order to become more informed, I took my boss’s advice and whipped out the laptop. Hey Google, what should I know before I head to Thailand? 1. Carry around a roll of toilet paper. 2. Don’t ride an elephant. 3. Keep your toes pointed away from people. 4. Ride a tuk tuk. 5. Meals will generally be under ten bucks. Alright. I’m already overwhelmed.

Luckily, I have plenty of time to continue my research. I should also start to prepare to wear conservative clothing in 90 degree weather. Not a problem. Only 210 days until we take off!

Stuffed

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone! I’m writing from Florida this holiday while watching a performance on the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade. Nothing says thankful like a rapper singing about vanity, am I right? I am immediately thankful that they finally moved on to floats and marching bands. Now that that is over, let me get to what actually makes me thankful. I’ll stick to top three things because this post would take a few hours to read if I listed everything.
  1. Family – I’m sitting on the couch while watching my mom and aunt prepare a feast, my sister braid my other sister’s hair, and my cousin imitate the people in the parade. Since we’re scattered between New York, Philadelphia, and Florida, it’s been a few years since we spent a holiday together. I’m happy I decided to join the crazy entertaining girl gang. My family is a source of unconditional love no matter where in the world we may reside or how long we go without seeing each other.
  2. Dylan – This year I’ve found another best friend. For the first time since living in Philadelphia, there is someone who relates to my life philosophy, has genuine concern for my wellbeing, and exposes me to things I would never think of doing on my own. He reminds me of the level of comfort I have with my closest college and high school friends. Dylan is a wonderful addition to the friends I am continually thankful for even though they are far away!
  3. Work Team – One of the main reasons I enjoy going into work day in and day out is because of my team. They make me laugh, drink countless amounts of liquid with me, lend an ear for my laments, and are supportive of one another. I am thankful that my boss has trusted me to travel to surgeries and courses throughout the country. I couldn’t ask for a better set of people to learn from and with. Aside from my team, I’m thankful for the colleagues that I can rely on to lend a helping hand. Shout out to Mark for jump starting my car earlier this week!

Oh yeah, NBC moved on to something about it being good to be alive. A little more fitting for the Thanksgiving theme. Alright I can’t resist – one more thankful thing. Felicia brought the new Justin Bieber album. He’ll be the soundtrack to the rest of my week and weekend and a great addition to the workday commute. It is great to be alive! I’m feeling more stuffed than a turkey with all these good feelings. Thanks, World.

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Just kidding, I only wear pants if I have to.

Summertime Happiness

Guys, this summer has been fantastic so far. I think I’ve enjoyed it so much because I’ve spent my time with the people who matter most. Aka my family, big boy, friends, Big Brother cast, and Bachelor in Paradise cast. Unfortunately, those last two subsets have only been through a television screen. Actually, that’s probably for the best.

Back to the live interactions. The end of June was spent in Florida with family. I saw my cousin and aunt for the first time in what felt like forever. I associate them with summertime. That’s when our families would annually convene during my childhood and this year was no exception. The beach had us toasting and so did the 21st anniversary of Isabella’s birth. We celebrated with frozen drinks in some seaside town. After our stay in Brandenton, my mom, sisters, and I headed to Miami for my last day of vacation. I characteristically lost and found my wallet. Thank you karma or God or whatever is bringing my stuff back to me. I need a leash. For my belongings, not myself. Aside from the misplacement dilemma, I am thankful for the alone time with my mom and sisters. Being with them without distractions is one of my favorite activities.

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I left my family and headed back up the east coast for the Fourth of July. Once back in Philadelphia, I was reunited with Will and met his girlfriend and some of her friends for the first time. They were all entertaining and genuinely friendly people. What a pleasure to be around! After brunch and a rainy parade, Dylan and I headed to New Jersey to see his family. I was mostly excited to see a different aspect of his life and a pinch hopeful that the dessert I contributed would be edible. After a few directional challenges, a hotdog competition, glass of sangria, and delicious dinner, we headed to a lake to watch fireworks. Let me just say, I love suburbia. Every bit of it — how close-knit the community is, how much love and care parents have for their children, and the stability. Dylan’s family was kind and I’m thankful they let me into their home. I’m especially grateful that Big Boy let me see parts of his past.

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Finally back in Philadelphia, I had some visitors of my own. My dad came to Philly for his birthday. The lucky duck immediately found parking. We embarked on a culture filled Bastille Day at the penitentiary and Zorbas. I hope he had a fantastic 51st. Later on, my mom came to visit. We went to Longwood Gardens. WOW! Just wow! That place is freaking gorgeous. Even though we were slightly frightened by a moaning woman during the light-show portion of the evening, we were happily buzzed from our shandy. The weekend was a success in my mind. Lastly, Billy Joel came to visit Philly, so Dylan and I thought we should stop by Citizen’s Bank Park and say hi. He greeted us with singing and piano playing. What an entertainer. My favorite part of the concert was watching the concert-goers. People watching will never get old.

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Neither will seeing new places. More travels include Fire Island with my mom and sisters and Savannah for a work trip. I had never been to Fire Island but I definitely want to go back. It’s a little getaway that feels nothing like Long Island. Savannah is beautiful but super hot. I’ve confirmed that I enjoy traveling when it’s with other people. All these work trips alone are starting to take a toll on me. I don’t mind the sightseeing and dining alone, but the lonely commute gets to me.

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My most recent adventure was to New York City to see Jill for her birthday. I was SO excited to be reunited with people I hardly see like Jill, Rebecca, Jamie, and others. Jill is the jolliest person I know, Rebecca keeps it real, and Jamie is the definition of a sweetheart. Their company was enjoyed on a rocky boat Frying Pan and a rooftop bar Gallow Green. We headed down to dinner at Artichoke Pizza and had the biggest pizzas and “rolls”. I capitalized on the occasion and spent the night in the city. To our surprise, we stayed in a super nice hotel and took advantage of the bathrobes. Nothing says luxury like a body shaped towel worn by hundreds of strangers. Am I right? The next morning we found a deli (OMG deli! new york! wow!). I miss good bagels. Later we walked through Central Park and met Dylan’s mom for lunch. Eventually, we walked into the Barrymore Theatre to watch The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time. What a show. From the space conscious stage, to the phenomenal acting, to the surprise ending performance, I was enthralled. Our last stop after the play was Port Authority. Luckily, I had Dylan to keep me company while waiting for the late Peter Pan.

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This summer hasn’t been all fun and games. Even though there have been a few setbacks, there’s always a bright side if you look hard enough. Dylan’s steps have been down, but this has given him the opportunity to focus more time on Bench Mark Program, a nonprofit that he is involved with. They are currently working to relocate the gym facility to a more appropriate location. Check out the link for more information! Every bit of awareness and contribution helps!

Blow a Kiss, Fire a Gun

What am I doing as I get old? I’ll tell ya. Here’s an overview of the last three months.

My mom, Sue, and Lisa came to visit for the flower show. Pina forgot her wallet in New York and flashed a waiter at Zorba’s. I enjoyed having financial control over my mother. How’s that for a freaky Friday? Lisa and I took our mothers to a college bar where my mom sniffed and conversed with an Eagles player. She thought the fragrant flyer was preoccupied with birds. Ariel came to visit for the few days leading to the anniversary of Jesus’ resurrection. We discovered oddities at Mutter’s museum, shopped in the Gayborhood, and dazzled the world with our ratchet humidity-heightened hair. Heidi came all the way from Panama! Catching up with her and hearing about her heidi-hut, among other things, proved to me that people can be happy by their own will and regardless of their possessions. All these visitors remind me that no matter how far I am from old friends, their significance will never fade.

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Speaking of heidi-huts, my mom came back to Philadelphia to help me move into my new apartment! I am now in the Fairmount/Spring Garden area within walking distance of the Art Museum. Those Rocky Steps are becoming one of my favorite places in the city. There’s nothing quite like watching the sun fall over the city from the top of the stairs. A downside to the new apartment, sweltering heat as a result of no air conditioning. The vornado, ceiling fan, and window unit have been my saviors. Other than that, I’m falling more and more in love with this city. Whether it’s a happiness talk during the Philadelphia Science Festival, a block party in Rittenhouse, or a 1/4 global Future Sensations light exhibit on Eakins Oval, there is always something going on. I have gained respect for the citizens here too. My wallet has detached from my person twice in public transportation, and both times it was returned to me with everything inside it. Thank you good people of Philadelphia!

Now from my city, to other cities. Non-work-related trips include visiting Laura’s childhood home in Bethesda, my childhood home for Elisa’s graduation, and SoHo for Felicia’s birthday. Laura’s family is a delight and Georgetown is a cute town. Seeing Elisa graduate filled me with pride and I’m not even sure why because I had nothing to do with her accomplishments. SoHo was significant because Dylan met my mom and sisters for the first time. New memories in new (and not so new) places.

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I’ve traveled a bunch for work to support cases and help out with trainings. Among the list — Loma Linda, CA. Allentown, PA. Bucks County, PA. Las Vegas, NV. New York City, NY. One of the perks of traveling is that I’m able to meet up with people that I’m not around in Philly. Recently, I’ve seen Corinne, Seojin, Daniela, and my mom. They’re all good eggs. I hadn’t seen Corinne since last year when I visited her in San Francisco, but it felt like we hadn’t spent a day apart. She has such a good soul and I can’t help but be happy when I’m around her even if we’re crying! Same with Seojin and Daniela. Seojin is a sweetheart. I’ve only met Daniela one other time, but it was as if I had known her for years. Even the old man photographer at the bar couldn’t sway our attention from each other as we caught up. Talking to people who are genuinely interested in your life and vice versa is refreshing.

Seeing people I love is great, but I have to say the most empowering part of work travel is having people NEED to have me there. I feel that it’s easy to get overlooked or overshadowed in the office when there are people with more experience or a larger presence present. The operating room is different. The only reason I am in the OR is because someone needs my help. To have an entire room intent on my suggestions and to know that my suggestions are ultimately aiding a patient is indescribable. You cannot understand it unless you have experienced it. The difference between my importance in an OR and my importance elsewhere is significant. Sometimes I feel completely useless or ignored. For example, just last week, two surgeons from a central american country were in the office to be trained and even though they spoke and understood English, they felt no need to interact with me. I felt as though my presence was an annoyance to them and did not understand why I had to be in the room. It’s extremely frustrating to feel like you don’t have a voice.

I’ve really been feeling the feminism lately. I read an article recently about male privilege from the perspective of a female-to-male transgender. I’m not even sure if I’m saying that right. The point is, the article focused on the small differences that the author noticed in how he was treated in the same situation as one gender or the other. I think his argument would be more compelling if it was male-to-female and could be compared at the same age, but nothing is perfect. Anyway, I could relate to a lot of the things he listed especially in the workplace. I see perpetuation of stereotypes in my own family. The boy cousins aren’t expected to put their plates away when they’re done with their meal. It’s fine to leave dirty dishes on the table because the women will pick them up. It’s not so bad for my sister to do mediocre in a class because she has her beauty as a back up. These seemingly harmless acts and sayings reinforce gender stereotypes without us realizing it. I’m sure I’m guilty of similar wrongdoings. I wish everyone was more aware of what their actions imply. It would be nice if we were surrounded by fairness that was less theoretical and more actual.

I feel that I have surrounded myself with the best company. Birthdays are always a good reminder of who gives a shit. This year was no exception. Thank you to the people who made my 24th birthday one to remember. I’m guessing people are figuring out I’m more of an experience person than a possession person. Let me explain. My mom bought me a pair of tickets to see one of my favorite men, Ed Sheeran, sing his heart out. Laura and Brittany planned a surprise gathering for me at Spruce Street Harbor Park. Iden wrote me a sweet card. Dylan indulged me with tickets to see The Lion King. I’m so grateful for the people in my life and appreciate them every day.

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One person I appreciate so much and am extremely sad that is leaving Philadelphia is Laura. She is SO inclusive. I can’t remember a time that she didn’t try to pry me out or check in to see how I was doing. I’m going to miss having her here. Let’s bake a pie sometime soon? I don’t care what city we’re in. Laura may be leaving, but Isa is back from Borneo! I’m happy to have her close by again. I’m sure we will be seeing a lot of each other in the months to come. She’s a fun and unique person and I like spending time with her.

Okay. I’m tired. And that’s enough talking. I’m going to try to post more regularly so the posts are more meaningful and full of flavor. Good night people!

Skirting Death, Tying Loose Ends, and Getting Worn Out

February, more like Feb-brrr-ary, has brought about some chillingly unexpected events. There’s been some snow, some car incidents, some funny dating stories from Ariel, some cooking, but mostly happiness.

The month began with ice skating and the Super Bowl. I was proud of myself for two reasons that day. First, I didn’t fall on the rink. Second, I made cupcakes from scratch for the first time. On the flip side, I couldn’t figure out how to open a locker and some cashier was getting feisty when I ordered a grilled cheese. Whatever, I quickly overcame those setbacks and continued to enjoy having free time to do random things. The week progressed with more inaugural events. I ate at Dandelion, an inconspicuous corner spot with the best chowder ever, for restaurant week. Next, I went to a Flyers game where the competitors were the Islanders. That was a tough one for me to choose sides. Later, some coworkers and I ventured into Old City for First Friday. What an experience.

Brittany, Julia, and I wandered on the streets looking for a place to settle. We started at an interesting gallery that I can’t remember the name of and looked at some yarn on cloth squares. Glorious. When we left that locale, we ended up in what I’m pretty sure was someone’s apartment. There were baked goods and babies and colorful displays of beverage cans. After about five minutes we agreed to leave the art viewing to others and searched for food. Cuba Libre is the place we chose. Noelle met us after the bartender recommended exactly what to order and what not to order. What a guy. My memorable mango mojito was complimented by delicious paella and Julia’s Cuban insight. We went to the cozy Sassafras for one last drink before heading home.

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Saturday was low-key until about six o’clock when I left my apartment to go out to dinner. As I was crossing the street, a car was making a turn and hit me! No joke. Luckily only my arm was hit by the mirror and I fell but nothing too damaging. The situation was more shocking than painful. The woman who hit me stopped to talk to me. She was just as frazzled as I was, but we parted ways after exchanging information. I continued my night with dinner, a movie, and a little arm soreness. The woman has kept in touch with me ever since.

Sunday, I met Laura, Molly, and some of their friends for brunch. After eating Laura and I took some dog for a walk at Forbidden Trail in Wissahickon Park. The trail was really icy, but I was so happy to be outside. Being cooped up all winter makes me a little stir crazy. The dog was crazy too. I liked the excitement he brought even if he had his ass in my face most of the time we were in the car.

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I spent more time outside when I went to an Italian restaurant in the city. We decided to walk there instead of getting a cab. Little did we know, there was a snowstorm coming and it was relentless. We arrived at the restaurant apparently looking like the craziest people on the planet because everyone who was seated turned around to stare at us as we walked to our table. I have never felt more judged in my life than in that moment. We didn’t let the haters or dampened hair dampen our spirits. The night ended up being pleasantly delightful just like our dinner.

Not everything has been fine and dandy. I feel like I’ve been working overtime lately. My body is tired. I had to work one Saturday morning. That wasn’t too fun. I’m not ever in the office by 7am on weekdays, so why was I on a weekend?! The course went well though, so I guess it was worth it even if the coordinators didn’t get me a name tag. I’ll get over it eventually. Another night, I was in the office late and knew I shouldn’t have answered my phone. There were two reps on the other side and I ended up staying about an hour and half longer than I wanted to trying to prepare them for an event they had the next day. They exhausted me. Come on guys, I’m happy to help but things run more smoothly if you think about what you’re doing. I blew off the steam by meeting coworkers at Dave and Buster’s. Two members from my team and I played games together. I really like them. They’re good people and we won a nice stuffed yolo hamster that we deemed our team mascot. A sweet ending to a sour night.

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To keep calm, I’ve been cooking and watching lots of tv. Most notable food: salmon, soup, pizza, crab cakes, and cookies. Most notable tv: How to Get Away with Murder, Survivor, and all the singing competitions known to mankind. I know, I know, my life is so exciting.

Actually, something pretty exciting did happen. My car was towed. Most people wouldn’t use exciting to describe that dilemma, but my experience was. I was with three of my friends and my car was nowhere to be found when we went back to where I parked it. I quickly noticed a towing sign and called the number. Thank goodness the company had my car and it wasn’t stolen! So, my friend Mark drove us to where my car was towed, and it was the sketchiest place I’ve been in Philadelphia so far. We were near the Zoo around midnight. Not the place or time you would typically choose. The room we walked into was covered in metal sheeting and one side had a small slot where a faceless figure asked for my id, money, and car keys. I didn’t have enough cash, so Andrew and I walked to a Chinese restaurant/convenience store/atm location. I’ve never feared for my life more, but humor was introduced to the situation when a man walked in looking for a condom. He wasn’t happy with Lisa, the woman behind the counter, when she gave him “free condoms from the clinic” for a dollar. He told Lisa that if the lady he was about to use that condom with became pregnant, it was her fault. Way to shift responsibility, man. He made me giggle as I watched countless 20s flow out of the ATM. Luckily, my car was returned and I learned to pay more attention to where I park.

Oh yeah. I forgot. I’ve been apartment hunting a lot. It finally paid off because I signed a lease last Wednesday! The place I ended up getting was the first place I checked out. That’s what always seems to happen. After a lot of back-and-forth with the people who currently live in the apartment and a lot of wracking nerves on my end, I met the landlord at Reading Terminal Market. The woman and her husband were very kind and have a personal connection to the house I’m moving into. That makes me feel like they take good care of it and so will I! I can’t wait to move in and have brunch with my Fairmount friends all the time. 🙂 Most importantly, I was able to stop at a doughnut (donut?) stand and bring goodies in for the office. The treats were gone within twenty minutes.

This past week I went to a few new bars including Taphouse 23, Cavanaugh’s Headhouse, and Good Dog. Taphouse ran out of everything we ordered. Cavanaugh’s was awesome and I’m sure I’ll be back again. Good Dog has pictures of dogs posted on the walls of each floor, which is cute. The only caveat, the third floor’s pictures are of the dogs that passed away because all dogs go to heaven. At least that’s what my friend said. I’m not sure if there’s any truth to that statement. I left Good Dog because I had visitors who had arrived in Philadelphia!

My mom, Lisa, and Sue were here this weekend, but I’ll blog about that later. Their stay deserves its own post for how good it was. Watch out for that! My cheeks still hurt from all the laughing we did. Okay. I’m done for the night. Getting sleepy. Bye!

A Twelfth of Twelve

2015 started off with pretty picture uploads, a familial visit, travel to warmer parts of the world, increased sales rep interactions, apartment hunting, new hangouts, and a car show. How’s that for variety?

Even though Jill left shortly after the new year began, my Cornell circle stayed strong with Kevin’s upload of beautiful pictures from Hellen’s wedding. I’m so glad I was able to partake in Hellen and Michael’s day and can’t wait until more of my friends start having weddings! The pictures are worth more than my words, so I’ll post a few here. Thanks Kevin for capturing a wonderful weekend!

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That’s enough of friends. The next few weeks were concerned with family. Amanda, Elisa, and Sean (okay I guess he’s not family) came to visit Philly. We met at the River Rink, and, since it was raining, the rest of the day turned into a continuous bar hop. The next stops were Khyber Pass Pub, Sto’s Bar, Lucky’s Last Chance, my apartment, Ashton Cigar Bar, and Misconduct. Our taxi ride into the city was nothing short of creepy. The driver was talking about murder. Maybe it was the janky ice pop vodka mixed drinks we had beforehand or maybe I was just paranoid, but I didn’t like sitting in the passenger seat next to the maybe murderer one bit. I was relieved when we arrived at the cigar bar but quickly became light-headed from the smoke. We had to sit down and eventually left to find a more age-appropriate location. By the end of the night, Elisa had offended some girl on the street, Amanda fell in love, and Sean dealt with the delusions. The next day we ambled to brunch, discussed catfishing, put a lamp together, went to a part of South Street that was too ghetto for our liking, and quickly left for cheesesteaks at Tony Luke’s. The weekend had to come to an end, so we drove back to my apartment chasing a blue and purple cotton candy sky while frantically yelling and trying to snap a picture of the sweetness. I was so happy to have them visit but next time things will have to be a little closer to what happened in AC.

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The family fun didn’t stop there. The next week I flew from Newark to Ft. Lauderdale to meet my mom and sisters for a cruise. We had a day in Florida before we left, so we ventured to Miami with my cousins and aunt. Even though I only see some of them once a year, it’s like nothing has changed every time we’re together again. We didn’t do anything particularly fascinating (other than sucking on sugar sticks and hitting on 12 year olds), but still managed to enjoy each others’ presence. There was a small tiff because half of us are over 21 and have more legal privileges, so we split up for a bit. The big kids went to a pizza shop for big beers while the little kids went to a cafe for coffee with moms.

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We ended the vacation before the vacation and boarded our ship. Our abroad stops were Grand Cayman, Roatan, Cozumel/Tulum, and Princess Cays in the Bahamas. Every place was beautiful in different ways and had a completely different feel to them. Grand Cayman seemed wealthy, like a place where the rich like to seclude themselves for a few months a year. A little post office in Hell and a turtle farm were my favorite places on this island not to mention the delicious plantains I split with my mom. Roatan’s vegetation was super lush but it’s development was heartbreakingly barren. Elisa was almost brought to tears while zip lining through the forest while my mom was brought to tears by a small boy who had a mouse for a pet. I felt a strong sense of culture and pride from the Mexican people combined with an affinity for American style education and economic growth. The Mayan ruins are like nothing I’ve ever seen and my outfit was ruined by wild waves. Our tour guide said something that will stick with me for the rest of my life. He made me aware of the difference between tourists and travelers. Tourists bring their own culture to different locations whereas travelers want to experience and learn about the culture of new locations. Thanks Angel for bringing that to my attenzione. I definitely understand. Finally, the Princess Cays was a gorgeous private island where we could relax and soak up the sun for the last day of our trip. Oh and to top everything off Elisa and I won trivia one night. Yep that’s right we beat all the 75 year old scooter riders. Miles asked me what the best part of the cruise was and I had to think about the answer. I loved seeing new places of the world but I loved seeing them with my family even more. That’s why I decided that having dinners with them every night was my favorite. We don’t often get to sit around a table with no distractions of cell phones (thank you open seas for making us disconnect for a little while) or work or other people. Having each other’s full attention is what I’ll miss most.

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Since vacation, I have been kind of stressed. I was busy teaching reps how to use our product at work, trying to design something that I can’t quite figure out yet, and apartment hunting on top of that. I’m not sure how, but I’ve found time to enjoy myself while doing all those things. I’m just doing what makes me happy and saying yes when people ask me to do things. Happy hours have continued and I’m happy one of my coworkers let me say what I needed to say. A couple of weekends ago we went to a coworker’s apartment in the Graduate Hospital area. It was SO nice and the rooftop view was spectacular. His apartment inspired me to look for an apartment for myself in that area. Plus I got to hang out with Julia and Nicole which seem to be a rare occurrence lately so that was nice. I’ve also been spending time in the Fairmount area. I enjoyed impromptu chili at The Belgian Cafe with Mark after seeing an apartment, tried lamb gyro goodness at Zorbas with a bunch of pals, and visited London Grill for the first time. I could see myself living in that area of the city too. The possibilities are endless! The guy who showed me apartments yesterday was so nice and thought I was funny. It was refreshing to be with someone I haven’t met before. He told me all about his girlfriend, his realty preferences, what I should be looking for, etc. I got the sense that he was being really honest with me. Hopefully he’ll be able to help me find an awesome apartment soon!

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After looking at apartments, I met Nicole and we ate lunch at Reading Terminal Market before heading over the the Philadelphia Auto Show. I’ve only been to a boat show that was similar to this event. There were so many children and I was more interested in finding one of them to play with than looking at the cars. I like what I like, okay. Afterwards we met up with Noelle, Mark, and a few other people. We had Wawa before heading home for an early night. I went grocery shopping and bought sugar and flour for the first time since I’ve moved to Pennsylvania. I figured I could make dessert for a super bowl party later today but I needed staples! That’s how I spent my Saturday night. Alone, doing laundry, and baking cupcakes. It was one of the best and most relaxing nights I’ve had in a while. I feel so rested today and ready to watch some fat men prance around with balls in their hands. I have a feeling February is going to be even better than January was. Let’s see what happens.

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The Closing of 2014

The last three weeks of 2014 were jam-packed with festivities.

I visited Nashville for the first time. When I arrived, the sales rep took me out to dinner at Virago in the Gulch. The restaurant was super trendy and the sushi was other-worldy. Or I guess I should just say imported. I’m not sure where their fresh sushi supply was coming from in a landlocked state but I ate it anyway. The next morning the surgery ended pretty early, and I was free to do my own thang by 10am. My compact rental car escorted me to Radnor Lake, the Bluebird Cafe (inspired by one of my favorite shows), a bookstore, and the Pancake Pantry. Saying I was a party-of-one at a sit-down restaurant was slightly embarrassing yet empowering. Public Service Announcement: I had a wonderful time by my lonesome. It was character building and I think people should spend more times with themselves. After eating, I stopped into Pangea and spent way more money than I should have. My closet, my apartment, and the American economy are happy though.

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Later on in the day, I went from loser to winner. I was reunited with a friend from elementary school who is now a teacher in Nashville. We met on Broadway and stopped into a bunch of the bars for honky tonk heaven. There was live music on a Tuesday at 3pm in almost every bar. How awesome is that?! We later drove to find hot chicken at Hattie B’s and a bushwhacker at Winner’s. I left shortly after to catch my flight. I am so thankful to Alyssa for spending the afternoon with me after not seeing each other for over five years! It was like we never stopped talking. She seems genuinely happy and passionate about what she’s doing. Even though a lot has changed in our lives, she is still the sweet and kind person that she has been since I met her in 4th grade.

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When I arrived back in Philadelphia, it was time for Globus festivities. There was the quarterly update happy hour and the Globus Holiday Party. My team didn’t save me a seat (sad face) but my friends did (happy face). I liked meeting my coworkers’ significant others and seeing people I don’t normally hang out with outside of work. It was a little disheartening that no one at my table won a raffle prize or award, but we made up for our mediocrity with silly pictures, DJ booth/stage visitations, and lots of drinks. The person who won employee of the year is someone I work very closely with, so I was full of pride to see him accept his award. Well done, sir. Later in the week, my boss told me I played a part in that which was nice to hear but I know he was just trying to make me feel good, otherwise he would have saved me a seat. LOL.

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Another reuniting happened with a college friend. Will suggested we go skiing, so Julia and I accepted the invitation. The two hour drive each way may seem long to some people, but I cherish time spent with people I care about. Catching up in the car, calling Corinne, listening to each other’s musical selections, and just being in each other’s presence made me happy. I hope we do something again soon!

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The night before I left for Long Island was unexpected. I forgot about a surprise birthday celebration for my coworker until I was half-way home. I didn’t care. I turned my car around and was pleasantly surprised by how the night turned out. We ended up finishing an entire deck of Cards Against Humanity. I was terrible at the game and tied for last either because I’m a wholesome person, I didn’t know the people I was playing with, or I’m not funny. I’ll let you decide the reason. After the game, we headed to Manayunk and spent a little time in my apartment before going to watch Varun’s soccer game. Then we had sandwiches on the sidewalk and scotch in a saloon. Luckily, Santa didn’t put me on his naughty list for this behavior.

I drove home the next morning. My mom prepared a wonderful feast of fish for Christmas Eve. We opened presents way before midnight. In typical fashion, my mom had the tree on the curb bright and early Christmas morning. On Christmas day, I went to my Aunt’s house with my dad’s side of the family. There are always a lot of people there and even more food. I swear I could live off of cheese and olives. We played a lot of Heads Up which entertained us for most of the evening. The next day, my neighborhood took our now annual trip into the city to see the tree in Rockefeller Plaza. By the end of the night, Felicia and I shared a bowl of penne alla vodka while everyone else had coffee and desserts. The morning after, Elisa and I met up with a childhood family friend. Our moms were friends and our dads were friends way back when they were little kids. We basically have been friends since the womb. There is never a dull moment when we’re together. We understand each other’s families and lifestyles. Growing up in the US with immigrant Italian relatives is something that outsiders will never understand. We can literally laugh for hours just imitating our grandparents because we know the sentiments behind the imitations. I spent the rest of the afternoon with Felicia returning gifts and getting our nails done. Baby boo paid even though I tried not to let her. Thanks girl. In the evening, I went to Huntington with friends from high school to celebrate Lisa’s birthday. She too seems really happy with her job and life in general. (Side note: She planned the neighborhood outing very well!) The bars we went to were fun but extremely crowded. I guess that’s what happens when everyone is home for the holidays.

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I feel like Ebenezer Scrooge. Christmases past I’ve been kind of grumpy. I hated shuffling between my mom and dad, figuring out who gets me for which holiday, and always disappointing someone. This year was completely different. In true Scrooge fashion, I had a change of heart. I was so excited to decorate my apartment and buy Christmas presents for my family. I could feel the appreciation of my family members. It felt good for them to tell me I was thoughtful in my gift-giving, not just buying things to buy them. I loved seeing people over the holidays, even if everyone wasn’t together. The icing on the cake was my dad telling me I have become a beautiful young woman. I started tearing up. I feel like a successful fulfilled adult for the first time in my life.

This week, I was back in Philly. Jill came to visit for the new year! I was so excited for her to be here. So many stars were aligning. The bus station she was arriving at was close to a pizza place that has 2-for-1 Tuesdays, so I arranged for work friends to meet us there for dinner. It was the first time I organized a Globus gathering. It was very informal. No emails, no reminders, and people showed up! I forgot how much I like organizing things. Jill and I were so good at it back in the day. Wine tours, parties, pledge class superlatives, and general glee. Anyway, the next day Jill and I got breakfast and had a photo shoot next to the tow path on our walk back to my apartment. There were some horrible phone drop scares, some awkward passerby picture requesting, and lots of laughter. We eventually got the shot. Later, we drove to the Blue Cross River Rink. Unfortunately, we couldn’t skate but we ended up taking more cute pictures and sipping drinks in the lodge instead. Then we walked around the city and stopped into a few stores before getting ice cream at Franklin Fountain, my new favorite ice cream place. At times, I think we are worse than annoying couples who constantly post pictures of themselves together, but then I remember how happy I am when we’re together and I don’t care if we annoy people.

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New Years Eve night was spent at Varun’s apartment. He threw a party with a nice mixture of work and non-work people. One clearly drunk guy called me Guantanamo Bae. I’m not sure how I feel about that. We partook in too many cherry bombs and not enough winning (i.e. no winning) in water pong. Yet, the night was redeemed with old school songs and Indian pop videos.

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January 1st was death. I didn’t want to move but forced myself to get out of bed. We went to Spread Bagelry for food and were some of the last people to get bagels. They ran out! How can a bagel place run out of bagels? When we were done eating, we drove to the Mummers Parade. Jill has the eyes of a tiger because she was spotting parking places all day long. We ended up getting our feet on the pavement and, of course, taking pictures with the parade walkers. Our time was running out and we headed towards the bus station. We read Valentine’s Day cards to each other and found public restrooms to kill our time. Her bus arrived and we hugged for the last time in who knows how long. I’ll miss her but the past few days were well spent.

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The night came to a conclusion with an email from my college roommate Kate. She started a chain between our housemates updating each other on our lives. I was so happy to hear from her and my other roommates. I think they should all start blogs so I can keep up with their lives. One and a half years have passed since we’ve all been in the same teary-eyed room together reading our wish bowl. My fingers are crossed that we plan a trip together soon. Too much time has gone by without us being together.

And that’s all folks. That’s how my whirlwind of a 2014 ended and a peek into how 2015 started. Stay tuned for what 2015 has in store. I’ve got a feeling it’s going to be a good year.

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Branching Out

I think I read or heard somewhere that experiencing something new with someone makes that person feel a closer bond to you. Assuming this is true, I have been trying to simultaneously plant firmer roots and sprout new friendships by putting myself in unfamiliar situations. My desire for change may be due to my Gemini traits or the fact that I have been in the same place doing the same thing for almost nine months now. I need different outlets, so I’m finding them.

Firstly, I am partaking in events that I have never or rarely performed in my life such as

  • horseback riding,
  • getting my palm read,
  • signing contracts,
  • cutting Christmas trees at Yeagers, and
  • attending a punk rock flea market.

Horseback riding was exhilarating. I wanted to go faster and hope I get to soon! My friend read my palm and told me I’m only going to have one love in my life and two kids. Only time will tell if that comes true. I recommend that everyone gets to experience searching for a tree in a field of many. It is so satisfying to see something that I hand-picked, cut down, and decorated in my apartment every day. I even made a wreath out of the extra branches. Finding ornaments for the tree has become a hobby. While I was at the grungy eclectic flea market, I bought five new ornaments to cover the tree.

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I haven’t given up my tried and true pastime of eating and drinking, but I’ve been choosing seldom frequented settings to do these things. In the past two weeks, I have

  • enjoyed lobster pasta at Wegmans,
  • munched on picante pizza and sipped Italian craft beer at Pizzeria Stella,
  • uncomfortably stood at Johnny Brenda’s,
  • listened to an awesome DJ at Bottle Bar East,
  • gotten tipsy off the Rumble at 1 Tippling Place,
  • salivated over the best pizza in Philadelphia at Nomad Roman,
  • guzzled Demon Semen at Eulogy,
  • tried homemade eggnog and a mango IPA at Sassafras,
  • imbibed on Blanche De Bruxelles at Flat Rock Saloon,
  • and stuffed myself on chicken tacos and Mexican hot chocolate at Cantina Los Caballitos.

Carbs and beer and carbs and beer and carbs and beer. From the list above, the best drink I had was at 1 Tippling Place. The drink was complimented by quirky decor and snobby people which I will discuss later. My favorite food was the Arugula con Prosciutto pizza from Nomad Roman. It was the perfect combination of salty, satisfying, delicious, and with the right balance of textures to keep your mouth amused. I seriously could have eaten an entire pie of that stuff. My favorite service was at Eulogy. I had been there before, but the company and chatter made this place memorable. I was with some coworkers, and once we saw the Demon Semen on the menu, we had to order it. One person from our party ordered a round for the table without cracking a smile and the waiter reciprocated his stoic manner. Amazing. By the end of the night, one of us was covered in the drink and not too bothered by the wetness. My favorite location was Sassafras. The bar was adorned in wintery wonder which added to the cozy feel of the close quarters.

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New things and places naturally lead to new people. On Tuesday, Julia and I went to an all ivy event at 1 Tippling Place. There were people from a bunch of schools but Columbia was heavily represented. One woman told us to go sit with the Cornell group. Ew for unwarranted segregation. Defying rules, we made two friends around our age from Columbia and decided to take an Uber over to Nomad Roman.  The pizzas were two-for-one pricing on Tuesdays, so we ordered a lot of food and only spent $10 a piece. It was honestly the best pizza I’ve had in Philly. Check it out, preferably on a Tuesday! On Friday, Brittany invited me to a surprise party for a guy I didn’t know. Did that stop me? Of course not. It encouraged me. We talked to a lady who gets herself in crazy predicaments, some young guys who make helicopters, and a bad elf. Pretty solid Friday night and it ended around 10:30. Couldn’t ask for anything better. The fresh faces continued on Saturday at Laura’s holiday party. She had a bunch of her friends from Villanova and their friends. I ended up leaving them after a short amount of time because of exhaustion but only after making sure some bonds were made. The last activity for meeting people was a KD alumni event I attended on Sunday. There was a wide range of ages of the woman present and I was thankful for the company. Almost everyone I’m around is in their late 20s, so having different viewpoints was refreshing. The food wasn’t too shabby either. I’ll definitely be going back to that restaurant even if the service is slow.

Lastly, the ABSOLUTE BEST MOST AMAZING new face I got to lay my eyes on was Sam Smith at Jingle Ball. His voice sounds like sad angels and I feel every word that he says even though I haven’t experienced half of what he is talking about. What a talent. I teared up a bit and only Celine Dion has done that to me with her voice. That’s saying a lot. He was joined by Nick Jonas (always faithful), Ariana Grande (amazingly talented but such an awkward performer), Iggy (so raunchy), Meghan Trainer (AWESOME), Jessi J (so powerful), and OneRepublic (literal rockstars), to name a few.

So, you can see I am getting out there and doing things to spice up my life. I can’t handle the constant going out though. I’m trying to find the balance between experiencing life and being present. Sleep is a critical part of that process and I need it to be more constant. That is my next goal. Along with using less contractions. Sleep more, contract less.

Who, What, and How of Thanks

Thanksgiving often becomes a time of reflection. Inspired by Maya, I ask myself three simple questions. Do I like who I am? Do I like what I’m doing? Do I like how I do it? This year these questions are especially meaningful because I am more independent and have more control over my life than I’ve ever had in the past. Of course there are still constraints in my life — morality, my boss’s expectations, responsibilities — but I can decide if these reins are limiting me or guiding me in the right direction. I can choose to let them hold me in or break free from them. I am thankful that I own my choices.

This year I made a major choice — the start of my professional life. Along with that package came the wrappings of a new city, new friends, and a lot of new experiences. I am thankful that my transition from college into the working world has been mitigated by family and friends new and old. When I first graduated and didn’t have an immediate next step, I am grateful that I had my family’s support and friends to spend time with. When I moved to Philadelphia and didn’t know many people yet, I am grateful that Isa and Varun extended invites on several occasions and that Jenny set me up on a friend date with Laura. When I started living in an apartment alone for the first time in my life, I am grateful for having visitors (and eventually a resident, hi Julia!) that made it feel more like home. When I am homesick, I am grateful that I’m a reasonable drive from home. On a daily basis, I cannot express in words how appreciative I am that I wake up knowing that I will be fulfilled at work, that I will have several smiling faces to look forward to seeing, and that relationships made between cubicles extend beyond the office walls. My coworkers have become my friends. They are the people I enjoy spending time with whether we’re riding horses or talking around my coffee table. This life is the best present I could hope to receive.

Every day I make minor choices. One of those choices is to write down what I am grateful for and what good things happened. No joke. I have a word document on my computer where I try to write the answers to those questions every single day. Rereading these bullet points makes me smile. The responses vary from hot showers, to Ithaca’s beauty, to someone telling me I’m their best friend, to pomegranates. Gratitude for what makes me happy daily is the point of this blog, right. Appreciating day to day happenings. Celebrating who I am, what I do, and how I do it. I think Maya would deem that a success.

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If you want more examples of gratitude, here are my past thanks.

http://lianaineverett.wordpress.com/2012/11/23/thankful/

https://lianaslife.wordpress.com/2013/11/29/thankful-for-business-and-pleasure/